I am writing this blog post for all of the Christian women out there who are looking for a man. I know that it can be hard to find the right guy, but I have some helpful tips that will help you know what to look for in a Christian guy and find someone who is just right for you.
More than physical traits, values should be the most important thing you should look for in a man. While physical traits change over time, values are what create the foundation for a person’s character of a person. You want to find someone who shares the same values as you so that the two of you can grow and be on the same page.
The following are essential values that I consider a Christian woman should look for in a man:
Leadership in a man shows that he is responsible. With great leadership comes great responsibility. If a man has leadership in a certain area, means that he is willing to take responsibility in that area.
Men who have no leadership in their lives, are more likely not to take responsibility for themselves. If he doesn’t take responsibility for himself, chances are he won’t take responsibility for you either. However, if a man has leadership qualities, he will be a great leader for you and your family.
Integrity means that he is honest and trustworthy and that when he says he’s going to do something he does it. His words align with his actions. I don’t think you want a man who says one thing and does another. It shows that he is not reliable, which is never good for a committed relationship. So, make sure that the man you choose has integrity.
3. Free of addictions
Please make sure that the man that you are dating or attracted to, doesn’t have any addictions to gambling, drinking, and doesn’t do drugs. The only addiction he should have should be to the word of God!
This is very important from the beginning. Some women think they have the capacity to change the drinking man and lead him to Jesus. While there are men that give up their addiction(s) during a relationship, it is very unlikely for this to happen. So, before you get your emotions involved in a relationship, make sure the man loves God with all His heart and is free from all bad addictions that only lead to destruction.
4. Fear of God
This is the most important value that I consider you should look for in someone you are considering as a potential life partner.
Fear of God doesn’t mean that he is afraid of God, rather than he loves God so much that he fears not to make God happy with his decisions. He’ll do anything to please Him and obey whatever He tells him to do.
It is vital that he is stable in his faith and that he is driven by it. This faith-drivenness will help him take on difficulties you may face together with faith. For example, he’ll know the Bible verses to refer to when he’s made mistakes or when you need encouragement during hard times.
In addition, a man who truly has faith in God fears God and is the type of man you should look for. You can be sure that if he loves and fears God, he’ll honor your relationship and will love you unconditionally, respect you and be faithful to you.
Make sure you share the same vision
Dating is made to find out what are each other’s personal goals and see if the two of you create a good match. You want to make sure that your vision aligns with his and vice versa. If your vision doesn’t align, one of you (if not both) will find yourself unhappy and that relationship won’t end up well. However, if both of you are on the same page and support each other in their dreams and goals, then great!
While dating, talk about your dreams and what you want to achieve in life and make sure you both are a great asset to each other’s lives. The right partner for you will add to your life, not take from you.
Thinking about what you want in your partner, should also make you think about what are the things that ‘your ideal man’ would look like for in a woman. Look at your own life, not as a form of judgment, but with the intention to prune the areas of your life that need some work. Decide today that you will do whatever it takes to grow in spirit and in truth. Work on your faith, your prayer life, and your love for God.
Work on yourself
As you do this, God will lead you to the right one. Don’t be so focused on finding that perfect man, but focus more on becoming the perfect woman by faith in Jesus. Seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and all the things that you want in life shall be added unto you (Matthew 6:33). Only then will you find someone who is just right for you and compliment your life.
Don’t give up hope
It may not be easy to find the person you are looking for, but don’t give up hope. Be patient with yourself and the men you meet; don’t be too impatient, as God will lead you to the right man when He knows both of you are ready. You’ll see how he’ll make everything (including your love story) beautiful in its time (Ecclesiastes 3:11).